I have had several clients come to me with the wish that they had more time with family and less time having to attend to work/business. Mickey Rooney said, "Heroes aren't born, they're cornered." It often takes us being miserably cornered before we make a move. Signs that you are feeling stuck in your job/career:
1. You are not feeling fulfilled, nor do you have the time and/or motivation to do the things that nourish you. You're distracted by the situation of your work environment.
2. You feel a LOT of "shoulds". Example: You should stay in this job because you are afraid to take a pay cut by going elsewhere. You should stay because finding another workplace, with these perks and at this pay scale is DIFFICULT. When you're telling yourself that you are STUCK and you HAVE to stay, that is a RED flag that something needs to change.
3. You're feeling angry and resentful when you wake up in the morning. It is also difficult for you to drift off to sleep at night. In the darkness of the night, the stress of your situation keeps you up. You're not going to bed feeling nourished by your day.
4. You're feeling stressed and anxious on your down time. You find it difficult to relax, especially on Sundays. Why? You're too worried about what you have to go back to during the week. The energy drain of what you're putting up with is leaving you zapped of motivation and creativity.
5. At work, you're becoming complacent. You may still be on top of all of your assignments, but you're only doing the bare minimum and even that takes EVERY ounce of your effort. While at work, you're looking for any/every opportunity to escape; frequent smoke breaks, bathroom breaks, scrolling through the internet, and an increase of time spent on social media.
6. Once home, you're not likely to feel motivated, and even though you try not to bring the office home with you, it is occupying your mind. The space it takes up in your head leaves you feeling less than present with your spouse and the household chores. You feel so zapped of energy from work that you seek ways to escape at home. Ultimately, you struggle to feel relaxed, unless on an extended vacation. Even then, it may take you 2-3 days on vacation before you fully allow yourself to unwind.
7. When you're honest with yourself, every aspect of your life is being influenced by your situation at work. You have less time with friends/family.
8. You feel a slight disconnect with your spouse, and you may be feeling inadequate that you are unable to "make your job work". You feel a sense of obligation to your spouse. You want to please, provide, and be a source of good to your household. You not feeling nourished at work may leave you feeling like you're failing in this category, which can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, anger, resentment, and displaced blame.
Life doesn't have to be this way! There are ways to overcome this challenge so that you can experience something new!
If you are not serving this job and it is not serving you, let it go to someone else who WILL serve it. As you let it go, you allow yourself to move onto something else that is more nourishing for you, your relationships and your household.
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